While we all try to make sense out of latest horrendous school shooting that has befallen this country, our focus often ignores the plight of the other “victims”…the families of the victims, the friends of the victims, the children who survived this devastating event and other children and families around the world, who viewed this horror through the media.

In this video, clincal and sports psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Jack Singer shows you how to communicate with your spouse without arguing.

Excerpted from New York Times Mary Smith headed outside to her friend’s pool. Settling into a lounge chair, she tapped the Skype application on her phone. Hundreds of miles away, her face popped up on her therapist’s computer monitor; he smiled back on her phone’s screen. She took a sip of her cocktail. The session.